There’s nothing like the pain of finding out your spouse is having an affair. It’s really the ultimate betrayal. And it hurts—A LOT!

But don’t give up! First of all, remember that 80% of those who divorce during an affair regret the decision. And over 75% of those who marry partners in an affair end up divorced.

Secondly, you must realize that you can’t deal with this terrible situation all by yourself. Counseling or therapy is great if you can afford it and have the time in your schedule. Unfortunately, many people don’t.

But it is possible to get relief from your pain quickly and without spending a lot of money.

There are some really fantastic guides for surviving infidelity in marriage available right now. These will allow you to figure out what kind of affair your spouse was having (this is very important!) followed by a step-by-step plan for saving your marriage. These guides tell you EXACTLY what to say and do to move past the affair and get on with your life.

Here are three of the most popular guides for how to survive an affair currently available. These can all be bought directly online, which means you can download them immediately:

Break Free From The Affair—This is the #1 guide to surviving infidelity. This ebook is the result of 23 years of therapy private practice. It features in-depth, proven, and practical steps used effectively by hundreds of couples in the midst of marital infidelity. The cost is $49.95. (Additional products available from this program include a second book, “Marriage Makeover,” which helps couples create a deep, rich, intimate marriage after the affair, and 19 live coaching sessions featuring the author and some of his clients). There’s tons of information about this program at the website.

Relationship Trust Turnaround—This program is not about quick fixes, but instead focuses on rebuilding trust and communication after an affair so the marriage can last forever. This guide also comes with audio recordings. The price is $67. You can visit the website here.

Survive an Affair—This is a highly effective 3 phase program for surviving infidelity in marriage. The book comes with 2 bonus reports. The cost is $64.90. The website is here.

Most people don’t think clearly after finding out their spouse has cheated on them. They react in one of two ways. They either:

Swallow their pride and tolerate it, hoping that their spouse will come to his senses eventually. Maybe if you try to be nice and meet all of his needs he’ll come around and love you again.

This is not only humiliating for you, but it simply doesn’t work. It’s important to realize that your spouse’s affair is NOT your fault. Plus, do you really want your spouse to come back just because you’re being so darn nice?

Others get furious and go on the attack. They threaten, get hysterical, become depressed, and try to make their spouse feel as guilty as possible. They beg, plead, and make desperate promises.

Again, this doesn’t work, and you’ll only drive yourself crazy. You’re not going to get your spouse back by coercion. You can’t bully someone into loving you again.

The fact is, most people don’t know what to do or how to behave with a cheating spouse. And that’s why it’s so important to have some kind of guidance. You need to get off the emotional roller coaster and start thinking rationally again.

Whatever you do, don’t try and solve all your problems alone! Your chances of saving your marriage are greatly enhanced by getting some HELP.